72. Taking My Own Advice

I need to be careful about the following story because of the people involved. So I’m going to change the people and the venue, while keeping what happened accurate.

I was at a small gathering last week and had two people I knew well on either side of me. When I told the person on my left that I needed to leave to make calls to Gideon members (the Bible distribution ministry), he made lewd remarks

as to the makeup of that organization. Then came the second issue. I have recently published a new book called Murders and Genealogy in Hennepin County and was being asked polite questions by others at the table, when the person on my right, who was heading toward a state of intoxication, if he had not already arrived, said he’d read my book only if I gave him a free copy. At the end of the get together, the person on my left said he and the person on my right would buy a book together if I sold it to them at half price. I agreed to the offer, but they were just trying to pull my chain and had no intention of even buying a book at half the price.

On the way home, I was disturbed by their behavior and talked to my wife about it. How dare they treat me that way! What awful luck to be sitting between them. It was still on my mind when I went to bed. The low-life rascals! When I awoke in the morning, their behavior of the night before came crashing into my mind and threatened to ruin my whole day. Then I remembered the blog that I was about to post that morning – “Accepting the Universe.”

Suddenly I realized they are the way they are, and I can’t do anything about it. Why it happened is one of the mysteries of my life. I didn’t need an answer. I accepted the situation as it was that evening, and the whole matter flew from my mind.  I let loose any harboring resentment, didn’t feel sorry for myself, had no thoughts of being rudely treated, or any other negative thoughts or emotions.  I was free to start into my day, with them stuck back in the muck of a swampy journey I made that was simply part of the universe I lived in.

I need to clarify here what accepting the universe is. God is the creator of the universe; we are the creatures. His thoughts are not our thoughts nor are his ways our ways. He is so far above us in holiness and grandeur that we can only bow humbly before Him and say, “Though I don’t understand your ways, yet I accept everything from Your hand. “ That’s accepting the universe as God made it, and trusting Him that He has everything under control, even the things we don’t understand, especially the things we don’t understand.


About Patrick Day

In 2010, I escaped from four long years of deep, dark depression. This blog shares lessons I learned from those years as depicted in my autobiography - How I Escaped from Depression - as well as other insights about depression and anxiety that only come from someone who has gone through it. When you have a heart attack, you become an expert in heart attacks. When you have diabetes, you become an expert in that condition. As such, I am an expert in depression, with a four-year experiential degree and graduate studies in how to live a life going forward that keeps the ever-lurking Depression at a healthy distance.
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5 Responses to 72. Taking My Own Advice

  1. Wendy Love says:

    It was the same ad that is on TV these days for some car, I forget which, but a lot of scantily clad women which sort of didn’t seem appropriate for a site where the author claims to be a strong christian.

    • Patrick Day says:

      Thank you very much. Now I have facts to use with WordPress. I am very disappointed that they can put such an ad on a website in which I make claim to be a Christian. I can tell you most certainly that I did not approve that ad and am offended by it. Scantily clad women selling cars is degrading to all women and sets a theme that is not complimentary to the female sex nor to their higher aspirations in life.

  2. Wendy,

    Now I’m in another city and at another computer and saw what you are talking about – an ad at the end of my blog. I am going to connect with WordPress and see what their policy is, and if I can eliminate ads.

    By the way, what was the ad you saw? Was it offensive? Anyone else out there offended or concerned about an ad?

  3. Patrick Day says:

    Thanks for your comment and the encouragement. What do you mean by “approve the advertisements?” Do you mean the comments, or are there advertisements when you open up my blog. If there are, I definitely do not approve them. I’m going out of town today and will check my blog site from a different computer to see what is on the page. I don’t have any advertisements on my computer or my laptop.

  4. Wendy Love says:

    Interesting story Patrick and I am so glad you got over that negative event before it overtook your thoughts. Good for you!
    Question: do you approve the advertisements ahead of time?

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