127. Doing What You Don’t Want to Do

When I was in major depression, I didn’t want to go anyplace, meet anyone, be part of a social gathering, eat out, exercise … you get the picture.

My ability to concentrate was gone. I felt so bad emotionally and physically that I just wanted to sit in a lounge chair like the invalid I was. There was no purpose in my going on, no meaning to anything I did, no appetite for much needed nourishment, and I was walking around in a daze because of lack of sleep.

A wise counselor insisted

that I force myself to do such things at least once a day. Sometimes it was just going to the library and looking at books. Other times it was going to the gym to exercise (I even felt better when I burned off energy). I met for coffee once a week with a friend who was also depressed. And I allowed my wife to drag me off to social gatherings, shopping, and eating out – even though I would rather have had my fingernails pulled out.

I pushed through the depressive resistance to do these things because someone I trusted told me I needed to. My psychotherapist brother reinforced that this was part of the therapy for getting better.

Depression is a formula for feeling overwhelmed with doing even simple things, inaction, lethargy, passivity, and feeling stuck in a pit. Doing things in spite of depression was a start for me. Every time I did my activity for the day, I felt better for it.

If you or someone you know is depressed, do something, do anything – even if you don’t want to, especially if you don’t want to.

About Patrick Day

triumphoverdepression.org This blog is my ministry to support those who are depressed, in gratefulness for my having overcome major depression. Read "About Patrick Day" just to the right of "home" on the top of the blog site to find out more particulars about me. I retired from a career in higher education, where I served as Dean of Instruction, and promptly moved into a life of purposelessness and despair for five years, finally coming out on the other side. I am now an author, a business and life coach, a writer of this blog, and a volunteer for various organizations. What I write about in this blog is not hypothetical comments on depression. I have been there, felt the horrible pain, had my life disrupted, and experienced everything that I write about. I pray that I may be a blessing to you.
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