There are all sorts of self-help books out there that tell us how to reduce stress – yoga, soothing music, exercise, meditation, bubble baths, and the like – but these techniques assume we are the victim and can only feel better by a passive response to stress.
But many stressors are not under our control, like the various Middle East crises, the disintegration of our society into one of violence and disregard for others, and the specter of economic disaster and financial ruin. And there are stressors that seem out of our control, but are not truly so, like a workplace that is a den of snakes, a cheating or alcoholic husband, or a close friend who has just been diagnosed with cancer.
Bubble baths will not alleviate the stress of financial ruin. Exercise will not solve the problem of patchy child care. Meditation will not find another job for one whose place of work has just gone out of business. Let’s look at how to deal with these things in Friday’s blog.