This is what I wrote in my last blog. “If such fears threaten to drive you into depression, shout “Stop!’ as loud as you can, shutting the door of your soul to fear and putting boundaries around it.”
My brother Bill took me to task on this sentence, and rightly so. Here’s what he wrote.
“A quick comment on your blog. Using the technique of yelling “stop” may work for some things, like aborting the whole process of fantasizing and wishing things were different. But the fear that you described was actually a toxic substance coming from the belief that “I am alone and there is no one here to help me.” That belief is what generates the fear. Yelling stop and shutting the door of the soul won’t work because that belief is already in the soul in the form of the belief. Getting rid of the lie, exchanging it for the truth, is the way to deal with it. I have a picture of a woman standing in her kitchen. There is a piece of rotting, smelly garbage in a corner of the kitchen. She is given two options to deal with the situation: 1) Yell “stop those smells right now, and get out” and close all the windows of the house to make sure the smells stay out, or 2) Pick up the piece of garbage, take it outside to the dumpster, and then open the windows to let the fresh air in to replace the fetid smell. I think your blog prescribed the first option. The belief entered the soul by a decision and a decision is required to remove it.”
My brother is a psychologist whose work is in Christian inner healing. As soon as he wrote this to me, I thought, “Ufda, I messed up on this posting.” It’s like telling a person who is depressed to pull himself out of it. I know better than that and apologize for the faulty message. Forget what I said and listen to Brother Bill.