221. More Lies and Truth

Here’s another story. Mary Ann, a 75-year-old woman who became one of my clients through the intervention of her daughter, also had a traumatic event as a young child.

One day, shortly after her husband left home and abandoned her, Mary Ann’s mother abandoned her daughter by leaving her on the front doorstep of her sister’s home, little suitcase in her six-year-old hands, and a verbal message ringing in her ears, “I don’t want to take care of you any longer; your aunt and her husband will be your new parents.” If that weren’t bad enough, her new stepparents were quite nasty to her as well.

The two lies deeply imbedded in her soul were these: God has abandoned me and I can’t trust Him. I can never forgive my natural parents or stepparents for what they did to me.”

I spent many sessions discussing with her that God loved her and her spirit of unforgiveness was poisoning her soul and causing the unhappiness and depression she was experiencing.  I made no headway. I tried to get her to hear what Jesus had to say about that event long-ago, but she was unwilling to listen. She was stuck and I could not unstick her.

Given all this, Mary Ann was certain she was going to heaven. I had not challenged that before, but I felt that if I addressed it, perhaps she might become unstuck. So I asked, “If you don’t trust God or want Him in your life, what makes you think He would want you to be in heaven with Him?” She raised her eyebrows. I had startled her and she seemed willing to talk about that. But after a few more sessions, she still could not let go of the lie that so affected her life, and I left it that she should call me if she wanted to proceed on with discovering the truth for her life, because I could no longer accept her money when we were making no headway. I continue to pray for her and hope one day she will call.

About Patrick Day

In 2010, I escaped from four long years of deep, dark depression. This blog shares lessons I learned from those years as depicted in my autobiography - How I Escaped from Depression - as well as other insights about depression and anxiety that only come from someone who has gone through it. When you have a heart attack, you become an expert in heart attacks. When you have diabetes, you become an expert in that condition. As such, I am an expert in depression, with a four-year experiential degree and graduate studies in how to live a life going forward that keeps the ever-lurking Depression at a healthy distance.
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