The following information is taken from a Facebook posting by Dr. Shannon Kolakowski, a psychologist from Seattle, Washington, by her permission.
Emotional wellness isn’t really about the problems you have in your life — everyone has those. It’s more about how you approach the problems in life, and how much you’re able to embrace the parts of life you do love.
This list is a guide to the most salient factors psychologists have found in people who are emotionally well. Most of us will continue to cultivate these qualities throughout our life, as opposed to ever reaching a point where we stop and say, “Okay, I’m done now — I’ve reached emotional wellness.” Here’s the list:
1. You treat others well. Viewing other people with compassion and treating them with kindness is a hallmark of your own well-being.
2. You like who you are. When you’re emotionally healthy, you generally feel pretty good about who you are.
3. You’re flexible. People who have emotional wellness have an ability to adapt to all kinds of situations that life throws at us.
4. You hold gratitude for your loved ones. If you’re emotionally healthy, it’s likely you easily feel and show gratitude for the people and the things in your life.
5. You’re in touch with your emotions. Another sign of emotional wellness is that you embrace your emotions — sadness, anger, anxiety, joy, fear, excitement — as a natural and normal part of life.
6. You have meaning in your life. Leading a purposeful life is about having a passion, a mission or larger meaning to your life.
7. You value experiences more than possessions. The final component is considering the types of values you have in life. People who tend to highly value attaining wealth, popularity, or attractiveness tend to be less well-off emotionally than people who value self-fulfillment and being there for others.